Talking to your child about autism

If your child has a classmate, friend or relative with autism, it can be difficult for them to understand exactly what this means. We’ve collected some ideas for starting a conversation about ASD with your little one.

Autism is different for everyone

Being on the autistic spectrum is different for everyone and there are a lot of misconceptions about how they might be.

Look for different ways to communicate

Some autistic children are non-verbal, and they might communicate using methods such as gestures, looking, reaching or echolalia (repeating other people's words).

You might want to explain to your child that just because someone isn’t speaking the way they do, it doesn’t mean they don’t understand what’s going on. Encourage your child to watch for ways the person is using to communicate.

Have fun together

Many autistic children have lots of energy and love to run around and play.

Encourage your child to include them in playground games and help them be part of the gang.

Go and say ‘hello!’

Don’t assume everyone will see autism as a 'problem'. Many people feel that being on the autism spectrum means they live a slightly different style of life, but this isn't necessarily a bad thing.

If you meet a family with an autistic child, don’t be afraid to go over and say hello. They might be delighted to have someone new to talk to!

Find common ground

Some autistic people have intense and highly-focused interests, often from a fairly young age. This can sometimes be a really good way for them to find common ground with other children who are interested in the same things.

Encourage your little one to find a shared interest with friends or classmates with ASD.

Explain what's happening

Children with ASD often need to know what’s going on and like to be in control. This can sometimes come across as bossy but it’s their way of coping with social situations.

You could explain to your child that some people really dislike it when plans change or there’s a surprise. Get them to think of a time when they’ve been unsure about something, and remember how it made them feel inside.

Watch out for worries

Someone with ASD may worry about a lot of things at once, and they might get very anxious about something that seems small to your child.

Encourage your child to take their concerns seriously and explain that everyone worries about different things.